Send yourself a positive message…Day 8 of 30 Days of Happiness

Send yourself a post card reminding yourself how amazing you are and that your goals are, oh so close!

I first read about this idea in Pam Grout’s book, E-Squared and decided to give it a try while I was on a Caribbean cruise this winter (Jan 2014.) I sent postcards from all the ports of call with messages of encouragement, reminders, and just plain “You are awesome!”

A postcard I sent to myself from St. Lucia, January 2014.


The giddy, uplifting feel I got from reading these messages – weeks later – was amazing. Not to mention what a nice reminder it was of all the amazing places I visited and the wonderful time I had with my Mom.

I highly recommend giving this a try, but don’t wait for your next trip – purchase some postcards from your local bookstore/tourist area and send it to yourself today!

How to create fail-safes for those dark days…Day 1 of 30 days of Happiness

Day 1 – Fail-Safes

Think positive thoughts and positive energy comes to you. It’s a simple as that. When you’re happy and grateful the energy you’re sending out is happy and grateful and this energy attracts like to it.

That’s why it is so important to have fail-safes in place for those times when you’re feeling down. We all experience these times, but what makes us different is how we cope. For some the easiest approach would be to crawl back into bed, and say you’re never coming out; to pull the blinds down on all the windows, pull the blankets up over your head and cocoon yourself; to withdraw inside. It’s only natural, at this stage, to mentally list all the wrongs in your life; all the things that you don’t have but so and so does (keeping up with the Jones’ by comparing yourself to others and believing you’re lacking).

Think positive thoughts and positive energy comes to you. It’s a simple as that.

These mental lists can bring you further down and make you more miserable. You believe the lies you’re telling yourself and you’re sending out negative energy, which attracts negative energy to it. It’s a vicious circle but, thankfully, one that can be broken.

The other approach you can take, takes a little more effort on your part but shows immediate results. Instead of making a “poor me” list, a list of all you lack, all that is wrong or bad in your life make a list of all the things that have gone right with your life, all the positive aspects of your life, your talents and your natural gifts. (Things that come naturally to you, accomplishments you’re proud of.)

I remember one exceptionally hot summer afternoon in July many years ago. I was cooling down in my parents’ swimming pool after a particularly hard day at work. Instead of letting my day go and enjoying the moment of cool water lapping against me, I was reliving the entire day – obsessing on all the unpleasant situation that took place, going over them in my mind, over and over and over. It physically wore me down. My thoughts then turned ugly and I thought about what a loser I was, how I’m fat and ugly and I’ll never amount to anything. This list of negative self-talk grew until I felt very heavy and depressed.

Out of nowhere, a thought popped into my head: mentally list all the things you like about yourself, list your talents. Nothing came to mind. What do people say you’re good at, came a prompt. I’m good with computers; people are always calling me to help them.

Good, what else?

And so began my positive list. Where did that initial positive thought come from? Was it someone guiding and prompting me? At the time I thought it was me – my voice in my head. But now, I know better. It was God, his angels, and my guides – my spirit team. They were lifting me from the darkness I created. Several minutes passed of thinking positive thoughts. I felt lighter, happier, like the storm cloud above me had moved on. Thinking positive thoughts of myself was difficult at first and I needed the guidance from my spirit team, but once I started down that road, and I began to feel the positive effects – lighter, happier – it was so much easier to think positive thoughts.

Fail-safes are objects, intentions and/or people you put in place to ignite the positive energy when you slip into a negative or dark place.

The dark days are not gone for good but they are fewer and farther between. There are still times I’m in the middle of a negative experience and I need a reminder that I don’t need to be there.

If you find yourself in that dark place, don’t beat yourself up. It’s OK. It is what it is. Just accept you’re there for a reason, look to your fail-safes to help lift you up to a lighter more positive place.

Fail-safes are objects, intentions and/or people you put in place to ignite the positive energy when you slip into a negative or dark place. They can be beautiful photographs or images that inspire you; Inspirational quotes or funny sayings that you have posted around your home or office; A beautiful and positive loving letter you’ve written to yourself; Making a list of all your wonderful qualifications, traits, and talents; or a feel-good movie or comedy that’s sure to make you laugh. A fail-safe is anything that can trigger happy, loving, positive thoughts that can lift you out of the darkness.

Here is a sample of a fail-safe I use. I smile every time I see this picture, It never gets old. I remember watching this horse get down and start rolling around, scratching his back. I was delighted my phone was in my pocket so I could capture this moment.

horse rolling on ground

So surround yourself with things, people, places that make you smile, laugh, and oh so happy!

Do you use fail-safes? What are some of your favourites?

~ Wanda


Wanda kissing Hutch at Discovery Cove, Orlando, FL
Wanda kissing Hutch at Discovery Cove, Orlando, FL, Nov 2008. © Wanda Quinn


When I hear this word I think of the prayer, peace be with you, peace be in you, peace be around you.

Peace. What does peace mean to you? Peace and quiet?

Peace for me means being grounded, in the moment, completely connected with myself and earth and heaven all at the same time. Some may find this hard to believe, but achieving peace is relatively easy. You just need to connect with yourself, find happiness and love from within then peace comes to you.

Don’t look outside for love, happiness and fulfillment… look INSIDE!

So many people look outside of themselves for love, happiness and fulfillment. They surround themselves with material things trying to fill a void they’re feeling within. Buying bigger houses, bigger TVs, trucks/cars. Some people turn to alcohol, drugs or food to fill that void. Everything they try only lasts a little while. Then they find themselves right back where they were. Lonely, like they’re missing something. What they’re missing is love and happiness and it can be found from within.

I don’t know if you’ve heard of the Mayan calendar ending in 2012 and what some people in the New Age/Metaphysical world are calling the end of time. I’m no expert on this subject, but I do have some thoughts about it. I don’t believe the world is going to end. What I believe is the world we know today, will end. It’s changing already. As I mentioned earlier, so many people have been feeling a void within themselves and have been trying to fill that void with material things. More and more people are realizing that the material things aren’t doing the trick and they’re looking for more. Many are turning to organized religions or finding their own spirituality. They’re discovering what’s been missing all this time, was always within them. Call it God (I do) or a higher power, doesn’t mater what it’s called, just that you recognize there is more to this world than material stuff. What I see happening in 2012 is more and more people will turn away from the “me” consciousness and the “material” world and will become more focused on the spiritual world and on helping and serving others.

So what does this have to do with Peace or How do we find peace?

You find peace by focusing on service to God

You find peace by focusing on service to God. When we do this, we suddenly become awake to our spiritual gifts and what our purpose here on earth is. The more we focus on this, the more love and happiness fills us. The more love you feel for yourself, the more you’re able to love everyone around you. Loving yourself and others, brings happiness, which brings…PEACE!

How do you focus on serving God?
You can start with meditating. I know, I know. I’ve heard it before and most of it from myself. Meditating? Are you crazy? I don’t do that? I don’t have time for that. Trust me, meditating is the best way to connect with your higher power and to receive messages from the Divine. I’m not going to lie to you and say it’s easy, because it’s not. It takes practice and patience. We’ve been raised in a very fast-paced society where, taking five minutes a day to just sit still and listen, is a very difficult task. But trust me, it’s sooooo worth it.

First thing you need to do is open your heart and your mind.

You don’t need to sit cross-legged on a pillow on the floor, (unless you want to!) You can lie on the floor, on your bed, sit on a chair, doesn’t matter. What’s important is you’re comfortable. Begin with five minutes. Close your eyes, take several deep breaths. Pay attention to how you’re breathing. In and out, in and out. Can you hear or feel your heart beat? Listen to the beat of your heart. Feel your body. How does it feel? Heavy? Light? Tight muscles? Feel yourself in your body. Take another deep breath, wiggle your fingers and your toes, open your eyes and Congratulations! You just meditated!

Next time, make it longer and take it a step further. Thank God (or your higher power) for everything you’re grateful for in your life. The more gratitude you have, the more abundance you bring into your life. Now you’re ready to talk to God, your angels, Spirit Guides, whomever you wish! Just put your question out there and listen for the answer.

How can I best serve you God? What is my life-purpose? What do I need to do to find happiness? I don’t like my job, what career would best suit me so I can serve you? Is there a soul-mate out there for me? I’m having a hard time financially, what can I do to have an abundance of wealth in my life?

Remember Noah and his ark! Now that was faith!

You’ll get guidance, usually right away, so be open to receiving it. If you’re doubting what you get, then ask the messenger to send you a sign in the physical world that is very clear and easy for you to understand, validating the messages you received. Then be open to the signs. One thing I’ve learned with the angels, spirit guides and ascended masters, is they don’t give you the whole plan up front. They give you bits and pieces a little at a time. Kind of like handing you pieces of a jigsaw puzzle and you’ve got to put it together, or shining a light on the next step on your path, but the rest of the path is still in the dark. Only one step at a time. So, if you get a message to go to a store, join a club, etc., then just do it, because you don’t know what the next step will be or what it will bring you. Remember Noah and his ark! Now that was faith!

How do you love yourself?

You start by looking yourself in the mirror every morning and, looking yourself in the eye, you say, I love you (your name), I really really love you. You are worthy of love!

Trust me, it’s not easy and may take some time, but it is so worth it!!!

Louise Hay’s “You can Heal your Life” DVD is a great tool for brining more joy, love and happiness into your life.

If you’re interested in learning more about loving yourself and using affirmations, Louise Hay’s DVD “You can heal your life” is a great resource.

Love and light to you today and always!