hundreds of geese flying as sun sets
Geese coming in for the night. October 2012. © Wanda Quinn

Note: Originally written July 13, 2012.

I was listening to CBC Radio’s “Living Out Loud” show this afternoon while driving into Ottawa. Today’s show was about being gay; a mother interviewing her son and chatting about when he first knew; a father coming out to his teenage daughter; and following a woman’s journey as she becomes a man.

What stood out most for me, while listening to the struggles each of these people faced – not just the person “coming out” but their family members too – is “labels”. I was struck by how we, as a society, label people, places, situations, and things. Listening to a mother ask her son if he likes “regular” guys too, I could empathize with her, attempting to understand what being gay was all about.

I recalled an episode on the Oprah Winfrey show where other types of sexual orientations were discussed and suddenly the world was educated on the variety of sexual orientations. The look of confusion on Oprah’s face (which, I’m sure, was also on many viewers faces as well) trying to figure it all out in her mind: so, if you are born a woman, but have always felt like a man then have a sex change operation and become a man, are you attracted to men or women? Are you now considered straight or are you gay? It’s confusing when it’s not part of your world and this mother (on the CBC Radio show) was trying to be supportive and learn about her son’s world.

Accept you as you are

I found it interesting that this young man is also an aboriginal and upon being asked if being a gay and an aboriginal was more of a struggle for him he explained how the aboriginal culture is to accept the individual as they are.

This brings me back to labels: As a society, it appears that it is important for us to put a label on things so we can judge and compartmentalize things to appease ourselves.

Why does it matter if someone is gay? Why does it matter if someone is rich? Do we have to say: he’s fat; she’s thin; he’s rich; she’s poor. Can we not just be who we are? Do we really need so many labels in society to lump us into good and bad?

I want to know people for who they truly are

I would like to live in a society where I am known for my essence, my spirit, not my weigh, height, looks or my label but for who I truly am inside. I want to know people for who they truly are, not whom they believe society wants them to be.




coco beach pier, fl
Coco Beach, Florida, November 2008. © Wanda Quinn

Faith is believing what you can’t see. Faith goes hand in hand with trust, peace, and freedom. To be truly free and have peace is to trust and have FAITH that God is taking care of you and you are exactly where you’re meant to be right now. The exact size, shape, job, relationship, situation…

To have full faith is akin to being a child and believing you are being taken care of.

Remember that feeling as a kid, you had no worries or cares. You knew your parents were taking care of you and you felt safe and loved. That’s where we need to go now, as adults. Have child-like innocence, once again. Have faith that God is taking care of everything and we’re free to feel safe and loved again.

Change comes from chaos.

It’s not easy, especially when we’re being bombarded by news of a declining economy and a recession looming above us, like a huge dark cloud. But change always comes from chaos. So, we have to go through some conflict, some chaos, some unsteady times, to come out the other side to change. Change is always a good thing. Keeps us fresh and growing. What good could possibly come from thousands of people loosing their jobs? Losing their homes? Well, for starters, people will slow down. Hopefully take time to look at their life, where they’ve been, where they are now and where they would like to be. They’ll see what’s truly important. Working long hours to make partner or get the corner office or make another $50,000 a year, will suddenly seem less important than making their son’s baseball game, watching their daughter’s ballet recital, eating supper with their family, spending quality time with their family, spending time with their spouse, getting to know and rekindle their relationship with their loved ones.

Remember the Mayan calendar and 2012. In order for us to achieve that new consciousness, we need to go through a lot of changes. They way we do business, the type of businesses we’re running. It’s all going to change. There will be more and more people working for themselves, being their own bosses, setting their own timelines. You’ll most likely notice a lot more “Mom and Pop” shops popping up and a lot less “box-type” stores.

Just for today…feel like a kid again. Sit on a swing, eat some cotton candy!

So try, just for today, to feel like a kid again. Go for a run in the park. Sit on a swing, eat some cotton candy! Do something fun and impulsive. Then take a moment to thank God for who you are and where you are. And thank him for making you feel so safe and loved. Then feel safe and loved! And have faith that everything is OK in your world.

I’m heading to Disney World in Orlando today. I’ve never been and I figure it’s high time. I feel like a little kid inside, excited about meeting Mickey Mouse and my favorite, Pluto! Of riding on all the amazing rides. Of feeling like a kid again and letting go of all the adult worries that drag us down! I can’t wait!


Freedom…Ask, Seek, Knock!

A local fisherman on the pier Kailua Kona, hi
A local fisherman on the pier – Kailua Kona, Hawaii, Nov 2008. © Wanda Quinn

Freedom. What does it mean to you?

The definition from the Merriam-Webster On-line Dictionary is:

1: the quality or state of being free: as

a: the absence of necessity, coercion, or constraint in choice or action
b: liberation from slavery or restraint or from the power of another
c: the quality or state of being exempt or released usually from something onerous “freedom from care”
d: ease, facility “spoke the language with freedom”
e: the quality of being frank, open, or outspoken “answered with freedom”
f: improper familiarity
g: boldness of conception or execution h: unrestricted use “gave him the freedom of their home”

2 a: a political right
b: franchise, privilege

For some, freedom might mean being debt free, retiring at 55, living pain free, not being confined to a bed with an illness, living in a country where you can choose your religion without fear of persecution, or perhaps being able to speak your truth.

Let me ask you this: are you free?

Once again, it means something different to everyone. Let me ask you this: are you free? If not, why not? What is holding you back from achieving freedom in your life right now? What are you waiting for? For the bills to be paid, until you’re retired or you have more time?

Once you define what freedom means to you, then try working towards achieving it; one small step every day and, before you know it, you’ll have reached your goal!

What does freedom mean to me? No restrictions. Being able to come and go as I please. I’m working on this goal right now. Self-employment seems to be the answer for me to reach my freedom. I’m looking forward to it!

Because of free will, your angels can’t intervene in your life until you ask them to

Remember that you have angels around you all of the time and they’re just waiting to help you. Because of free will, they can’t intervene in your life until you ask them for help – unless, of course, your life is in mortal danger and it’s not your time to die. So ask for help. You want freedom? Ask for it.

One of my favourite passages in the bible is:

Seek ye first the kingdom of God…ask and ye shall receive, seek and ye shall find, knock and the door will be open to you…

So, what are you waiting for?

Ask, Seek and Knock!