Are you enjoying life?

horse rolling on ground
Scout – of Captiva Farms – enjoying a backrub

Are you enjoying your life? If not, read on for tips on how to changing things so you are enjoying life.

I recently read a post on Twitter that said something along the lines of

“if you’re not enjoying life, something needs to change.”

I found myself nodding my head in affirmation. It’s so true. Life is too short to be spending your time brooding, complaining and holding grudges. It’s also too short to be doing something you don’t like or something you don’t want to do.

This spring I lead a happiness workshop – The ART of Happiness – introducing participants to a variety of artistic endeavours. Over the course of six weeks we participated in an abstract painting class, made a glass bead over a hot torch, jammed with a father-son musician duo, made a rose quartz bracelet and learned how drum on djembe drums.

The purpose of the workshop was to get in touch with our creative sides, finding hobbies that interest us and in turn spark our passion. The idea for the workshop came from my guides and my clients. So often – during readings and counselling sessions – I have been asked by my clients “How can I get happy?” or “Will I ever be happy?”.  I was surprised by how many people don’t know what makes them happy and even more surprised by people who are living a life without happiness.

Happiness is overrated.

I don’t believe it is. I believe happiness is under-rated. Being happy, truly contented with your life and enjoying your life can be achieved. But, it takes some work.

Three small steps to help you enjoy your life:

  1. Spend some time alone.
  2. Pay it forward.
  3. Find a hobby.

Carve out some much deserved and needed “me time”. Schedule it into your calendar – weekly to start but daily is better! It could be 5 minutes or 50 minutes. Unplug from the busy-ness around you. Leave your phone at home. Go for a walk in nature. Eat your lunch outside. Sit on the grass. Lean against a tree. Read a book. Write your thoughts. Close your eyes and just be. Quiet your mind. Connect to your inner self and your higher power.

Pay it forward. All too often we get so caught up in our own lives that we’re not aware of what’s going on in the lives of those around us. Take time to notice what’s happening in your community; do something nice for someone you don’t know; volunteer in your community. Volunteering is a win-win as you and your community both get something out of it.

Find a hobby. Make a list of all the things you like to do. You don’t have to be good at it, as long as you enjoy it – that’s all that matters – then do it. Make it a priority in your life to do things you enjoy doing and do it regularly!

In my next post I’ll have more steps on how to create happiness in your life, in the meantime, find something to do today that brings a smile to your face and contentment to your heart.

With you on the journey,

Wanda

Faith Believes Nor Questions How

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Faith.

For some reason I was blessed with a deep faith in God and Jesus. I have a close connection with the spirit world, the ascended masters and the angelic realm. Since I was a child I’ve had this connection. It’s something that’s always been there and it’s something I don’t know how to describe except to say it’s a knowing. I just know he exists.

It’s true I was raised in an Irish Catholic family, which would make you assume that’s where my deep faith comes from. Actually it doesn’t. Being Catholic gave me the tools I needed to learn and develop, but my foundation was already laid before I came into this world.

There was a very short time when I doubted that God existed. I was taking a mandatory philosophy class in college and suddenly a whole new world was opened up to me that not only shook my Catholic upbringing but was cracking my foundation as well. It was a dark and lonely road I needed to travel, the only way I would be able to discover my own personal beliefs away from the influence of the church and my parents.

I came to the light at the end of the dark road and was comforted that I was never really alone on my journey, Jesus and my guardian angels were with me the entire time, providing comfort and love, yet giving me the space I needed.

Although my beliefs about organized religion have changed, my belief in God has not. In my darkest hour, I am not alone. I feel love. I feel comforted.

I don’t know how people who don’t believe in God – or a higher power – get through difficult times. What do they hold onto? Do they really believe they walk alone?

They ask me how I know God exists. What proof do I have? I don’t need proof. I know, deep down inside of me, that he is real. I don’t know specifics, but I know his love.

They say: If there was a God why is there so much hate, loneliness, sickness and war? Hate, loneliness, sickness and war come from humans, not from God. I believe people learn compassion, forgiveness, healing and love from these things. When terrorists flew planes into the World Trade Centers, the phone calls made weren’t about hate; they were about love, people reaching out to tell their families they love them. After the buildings collapsed, people of all colours, races, and nationalities came together to help. It was a time of bonding, of love, and of healing.

In times of distress comes hope; in times of loss comes comfort; in times of sickness comes healing. God is love. It’s all he knows. Only love is real. When you’re confronted with something other than love, look closely at it and find the truth behind the action. Perhaps someone is acting out because of fear? loneliness? hopelessness?

How do I know God is real? Witnessing the miracle of child birth; watching nature unfold: trees budding, grass growing, flowers blooming, birds flying to and fro, butterflies migrating…

I am comforted in knowing that I am surrounded by benevolent beings that are here to help me, console and comfort me, and to guide me. I am blessed to believe in a higher power – for me that higher power is God and this belief helps me through the dark times.

I know I never walk alone.

Choices

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Ottawa river taken from the War Museum. October 2012. © Wanda Quinn

Have you ever had one of those days when you’re faced with choices yet you’re not sure which way to go?  Our lifetime is filled with choices: Do I go left or right? Should I take the job? Should I break up? Is (s)he the right one for me?

Sometimes the choice is easy in that it’s clear which direction to take. But there are times when the direction isn’t so clear. In fact, sometimes it’s so unclear that we flail around like fish out of water afraid of making the wrong choice thereby not making a choice at all. Not making a choice puts you in a worse spot than making a wrong one. Why? Because there is no such thing as a wrong choice. Every choice or decision you make is a movement forward on your path.

We are often presented different paths to choose from – one may appear harder than the other – but they’ll both lead us to our final destination . So, the next time you’re flailing about trying to decide whether to go right or left  ask yourself this: does it bring me closer to my goal? Ultimately, you want to make choices that bring you closer to your goal.

Why are some choices so clear and others not?

I find two things generally contribute to making your judgement cloudy:

  • The first is you’re not grounded and centred. This may sound new age, even lame or repetitive – I know – but trust me when I say it makes a huge difference. Life is so much easier to navigate when you’re living in the moment; when you’re living from your heart centre (versus your head); and when you’re grounded and centred.
  • The second is fear. Being afraid of making the wrong decision (or the right one for that matter.) Afraid of looking stupid or being different. Afraid of not being happy. Afraid of being who you truly are and letting your light shine to it’s full potential.

We’ve been so used to being in control of our lives and believing – at least telling ourselves – that  we’re happy and this is as good as it gets – that the thought of actually letting go control and letting a higher power take over and take us to incredible new heights that are unknown to us is… well… it’s unimaginable, it’s unthinkably, it’s crazy, but above all else – it’s terrifying.

My guides have shown me an overhead view of our journey on earth. The way it was shown to me is that of a board game – because I often refer to life as a “game”. In the middle of the board is a bright shining circle of light. That light is God (or whomever your higher power may be) and reaching that light is our goal. We begin our journey at the edge of the board and there are many paths that cross, intersect and run parallel to the one we’re on. There are events that cross our paths and we have the choice of whether to judge them “good” or “bad”. They are neither… they are just events. My guides showed me this and said: “All paths lead to the centre. All paths lead to God. Some get you there faster, some slower. When choosing your path, choose the one that will bring you the most joy.”

If you find yourself at a crossroads and you’re unsure of which path to take, get grounded and centred, take a deep breath and ask: Which path will bring me closer to my goal? Which path will bring me the most joy? and which goal can I be of the most service?

A helpful visualization exercise

I find this visualization exercise very helpful:

See your current situation as the road you’re on. You’ve come to the end of it and what lies ahead is another road perpendicular to the one you’re currently on (that’s to say it’s a T). You can go right or you can go left.

Imagine yourself going right. What does the path feel like as you walk along? Is it bright as if a light were shinning on it or dark as if the sun was covered by a cloud? How do you feel? Happy, Sad, Joyful, Scared, Energized, Tired? How is your physical body reacting? Pay attention to your breathing, to your stomach, to your shoulders. Are you tingling with excitement? Is your heart racing and full of peace and joy. Do you feel light and airy? Are your shoulders lifted high up touching your ears? Are you holding your breath? Is your breathing shallow? Are you tense and rigid? Do you feel heavy and weighted?

Take a deep breath and shake off the image. Take another deep breath and imagine going left. Pay attention to your feelings and senses and to your physical body.

Compare your experiences from the right and left paths. The path that felt light, airy, joyful, happy and brought tingling to your body is the path to take. The path that felt heavy, sad, dark and tense is the path to avoid.

In love and light,

Wanda

Freedom…Ask, Seek, Knock!

A local fisherman on the pier Kailua Kona, hi
A local fisherman on the pier – Kailua Kona, Hawaii, Nov 2008. © Wanda Quinn

Freedom. What does it mean to you?

The definition from the Merriam-Webster On-line Dictionary is:

1: the quality or state of being free: as

a: the absence of necessity, coercion, or constraint in choice or action
b: liberation from slavery or restraint or from the power of another
c: the quality or state of being exempt or released usually from something onerous “freedom from care”
d: ease, facility “spoke the language with freedom”
e: the quality of being frank, open, or outspoken “answered with freedom”
f: improper familiarity
g: boldness of conception or execution h: unrestricted use “gave him the freedom of their home”

2 a: a political right
b: franchise, privilege

For some, freedom might mean being debt free, retiring at 55, living pain free, not being confined to a bed with an illness, living in a country where you can choose your religion without fear of persecution, or perhaps being able to speak your truth.

Let me ask you this: are you free?

Once again, it means something different to everyone. Let me ask you this: are you free? If not, why not? What is holding you back from achieving freedom in your life right now? What are you waiting for? For the bills to be paid, until you’re retired or you have more time?

Once you define what freedom means to you, then try working towards achieving it; one small step every day and, before you know it, you’ll have reached your goal!

What does freedom mean to me? No restrictions. Being able to come and go as I please. I’m working on this goal right now. Self-employment seems to be the answer for me to reach my freedom. I’m looking forward to it!

Because of free will, your angels can’t intervene in your life until you ask them to

Remember that you have angels around you all of the time and they’re just waiting to help you. Because of free will, they can’t intervene in your life until you ask them for help – unless, of course, your life is in mortal danger and it’s not your time to die. So ask for help. You want freedom? Ask for it.

One of my favourite passages in the bible is:

Seek ye first the kingdom of God…ask and ye shall receive, seek and ye shall find, knock and the door will be open to you…

So, what are you waiting for?

Ask, Seek and Knock!