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Tuesday, 10 December 2019

Well wasn’t that a nice break from cold weather – 10°C at 7 am – even for the short while it was here.

There was a fleeting moment where I wondered what to do for today’s photo. I had taken a few blue jay shots this morning but nothing spectacular. I watched the sunset but was tied up with work. Hmmm, maybe borrow a photo from my trip? I’d prefer a shot from today.

It will come. Don’t worry.

Alrighty then. I left it and went about my business which was setting up my Christmas village. I stepped outside to put some things in the recycle bin when I noticed the moon rising. It was spectacular! Almost full, whispy clouds floating in front of it…wow!

I grabbed my coat, tripod and camera, asked goggle assistant for the best settings for full moon photos, set my camera then stepped outside to shoot. The settings were a good starting point but not ideal. With a little tweaking I managed a couple of not too bad shots.

Yellow, full moon, with whispy clouds floating in front of it in a very dark sky
344/365 Almost full moon (cold moon), 10 December 2019, © WQuinn

The idea of painting a night scene with a church came out of nowhere. Kind of cute. Maybe tomorrow I’ll paint another one and add a horse and sleigh…

Watercolour painting night scene, evergreen tree in forefront left, snowy field and a small church light up is in the background right
344/365 Painting of the day, 10 December 2019 © WQuinn

Only 21 days left in the #365creativityproject.

Love and Accept YOU! – Day 25 of 30 Days of Happiness

picture of bird flying with ocean in background
This beautiful bird – looking so free – flew beside my stateroom balcony on a recent cruise. ©WandaQuinn

LOVE and accept yourself as you are right now – not how you’ll be next week or in six months, or when you loose weight, get fit, or if you were thinner, prettier, smarter, richer, sexier… But how you are NOW, today, in this moment.

Too often we look toward the FUTURE and dwell on the past instead of living in the moment. Remember that God and the Universe made you and love you unconditionally, exactly the way you are today. God doesn’t care that you’re carrying extra weight or that you’re not making a six-figure salary. He does care that you’re happy and loving your life and LIVING it to the best of your ability every moment of every day.

I recall a moment many years ago when I was standing in for my sister and took my niece to her swim class. It was parent’s day but I didn’t get the memo so didn’t bring a bathing suit with me. The other moms did get the memo but chose not to participate because they were self-conscious wearing a bathing suit in front of each other. I watched a group of disappointed children (with the exception of one boy who’s mom jumped in the pool which her child) and wondered what message they were learning about self-image.

Something came to me while sitting there with the other moms – most people won’t judge you in your bathing suit because most people are so preoccupied with how they look and are worrying about what others are thinking that they don’t have time to see and judge you. And, at the end of the day, what’s more important? Caring what other people think about you or having fun with your loved one?

Do you know who people notice? The one who walks by with their head held high and self-confidence radiating from within. They look good no matter their size or what they’re wearing because they love who they are and it shows.

I remember hearing somebody say: “It’s none of your business what other people think of you” and I find that comment so refreshing because it’s so true. You can’t live up to everyone’s expectations and ideals of what they feel you should be, but you can live up to the ideals and expectations you and your higher power have set for you. At the end of the day, all that truly matters is how you feel about you.

If there is something in your life that you’re not happy with, change it. If you can’t change it then accept it and move on and remember that true beauty radiates from within.

And love everything about you because you are awesome and so worthy of love!

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Are you looking for ways to help you love yourself right now? Louise Hay (the Queen of Positive Affirmations) introduced mirror work, a concept where, at least once a day, you stand in front of a mirror, look yourself in the eye and say: “I love you (your name), I really love you.”

(For the record, if I had known it was parent’s day, I would have been in that pool swimming my heart out with my precious niece.)

 

Labels

hundreds of geese flying as sun sets
Geese coming in for the night. October 2012. © Wanda Quinn

Note: Originally written July 13, 2012.

I was listening to CBC Radio’s “Living Out Loud” show this afternoon while driving into Ottawa. Today’s show was about being gay; a mother interviewing her son and chatting about when he first knew; a father coming out to his teenage daughter; and following a woman’s journey as she becomes a man.

What stood out most for me, while listening to the struggles each of these people faced – not just the person “coming out” but their family members too – is “labels”. I was struck by how we, as a society, label people, places, situations, and things. Listening to a mother ask her son if he likes “regular” guys too, I could empathize with her, attempting to understand what being gay was all about.

I recalled an episode on the Oprah Winfrey show where other types of sexual orientations were discussed and suddenly the world was educated on the variety of sexual orientations. The look of confusion on Oprah’s face (which, I’m sure, was also on many viewers faces as well) trying to figure it all out in her mind: so, if you are born a woman, but have always felt like a man then have a sex change operation and become a man, are you attracted to men or women? Are you now considered straight or are you gay? It’s confusing when it’s not part of your world and this mother (on the CBC Radio show) was trying to be supportive and learn about her son’s world.

Accept you as you are

I found it interesting that this young man is also an aboriginal and upon being asked if being a gay and an aboriginal was more of a struggle for him he explained how the aboriginal culture is to accept the individual as they are.

This brings me back to labels: As a society, it appears that it is important for us to put a label on things so we can judge and compartmentalize things to appease ourselves.

Why does it matter if someone is gay? Why does it matter if someone is rich? Do we have to say: he’s fat; she’s thin; he’s rich; she’s poor. Can we not just be who we are? Do we really need so many labels in society to lump us into good and bad?

I want to know people for who they truly are

I would like to live in a society where I am known for my essence, my spirit, not my weigh, height, looks or my label but for who I truly am inside. I want to know people for who they truly are, not whom they believe society wants them to be.

Blessings,

Wanda