Thank you, but really you shouldn’t have! Day 18 of 30 Days of Happiness

feather on rocks at seal cove
Seal Cove, Brier Island, Nova Scotia, August 2012. © Wanda Quinn

Giving is so much MORE fun than receiving! The inner rewards of HAPPINESS, glee and excitement are contagious and we love to give, give, give. BUT, how are you at receiving?

There a lot of us who find it HARD to receive. Why is that do you think?

I would imagine it has something to do with feeling not WORTHY of receiving goodness into our lives? Could have something to do with the way you were raised. I was TAUGHT to say no thank you, especially to my grandparents when they tried to give me money.

It was so comical the scene that would unfold whenever I completed a chore or helped out in some way. My Dad would have rehearsed with me prior to my tending to the task “What do you say when they try to give you money?” “No thank you!” “Good. Now, under no circumstances are you to accept the money.” “But what if they try to stuff it in my pocket?” “Move out of the way, say no thank you and come home.”

Inevitably my grandparents would bring out a couple of dollars and ENTICE me with it. I would recite my rehearsed lines “No thank you.” “Oh, come on. You earned it.” “No thank you.” “Are you sure?” Oh, oh, that was a new one. “Yes, I’m sure. No thank you.” Then the dance and dodge routine would begin and, I’m sure from the outside looking in, it was quite comical. Pops would move in to put the money in my pocket. I’d jump to the side, dodging his effort. He’d quickly move to the other side, and the dance would go on. Most days he won and I’m sure he did it just to goad my Dad. And, there were days I won but they were short lived because I would drop by for a visit, completely forgetting about the money dance and, unbeknownst to me, he would slip the money into my pocket. Eventually I came up with the 3 times rule. I would say “No thank you” three times and three times only. After that, if they were still offering, I was game.

You know that warm FUZZY feeling you get when you give. Why on earth would you deny that feeling to someone else? That’s essentially what you’re doing when you don’t allow yourself to receive; you’re denying others the pleasure of giving.

Didn’t think of it quite that way, did you?

For the record: You’re a child of God, a child of this amazing universe and you are so WORTHY of all the good God has to give you. Open your arms now to receive this goodness, this richness, and this ABUNDANCE into your life.

These gifts come to you in so many forms, from compliments, acts of kindness, pennies from Heaven, feathers, friends, and family. Be open to receiving!

So, the next time someone does something nice for you, gives you a gift or COMPLIMENTS you, open your arms, receive with joy and say – with feeling from the bottom of your heart – these two simple but great words: THANK YOU!!!!


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